Attitude and Conflicts! Kim’s way out.

Kim Comment: This really works for me, when I apply it.

Do I have the right attitude when there is a disagreement or conflict? Do I feel frustrated with the other person?

It can be very hard for me to keep the right attitude when I am frustrated about something. Often conflicts or disagreements will arise and the other person’s respond is not agreeable. The feeling of frustration topped with poor attitudes and negativity are the key ingredients for a recipe of destroyed communication. It is hard to remove oneself from that situation without being angry and mad. You know that feeling in your heart when you tell yourself, this is not right. It is easy to take on a negative attitude, the famous trap that involves criticism, anger, frustration, negative feelings and just pain disrespect.

Why is this person tearing me down? Why do they fell they have the right to treat me like this? But what I need to think about is what is causing the discontent between us. I can’t let the “I am right and they are wrong” thinking get me on the misguided track.

Here is something that works for me, If I remember to do it. I hate when I don’t apply it and then remember way late into the conversation. Reality is that everyone is human and there will always be conflicts. What I try to remember is that it is how I handle the conflicts that really make a difference in my life and the one I have a conflict with.

Here is my peace keeping challenge: When negativity is strong or emotions are on the rise. At that moment I pray in my heart that God forgive both of us of sin. I share with God my feelings of the situation is getting out of control. I can’t stay positive or handle this situation, without being angry. I ask that God take control of this conversation and show this person and myself what needs to change. Help them understand my feelings, without me saying anything.

After saying that silent prayer, I step back and just listen (don’t speak) and watch what happens. It really works!

there always seems to be a better solution when I apply this. It ends with forgiveness, peace and a restored appreciation for each other. Why do I think this works? Well God knows what we are thinking, he knows everyone’s heart and he wants us to have good attitudes and peace. Stepping back and holding my tongue allows a pause in my attitude, submission to God’s work and shows respect and value to the other person. I am always amazed how quickly things change and how the next things said lead to a solution. God craves us to be peacemakers, not destroyers. So learning to handle conflict is important. In the end, we might walk away with a difference of opinion, but we both enjoy the respect and peace we have for each other.

I say let God fight your conflict battles and PRAISE him for the results.

Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our toungues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way. James 3:2 NLT

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7 NLT